Getting what you want is tough and we are all primed for disappointment from a young age. But there’s a huge difference between being prepared for disappointment and not doing anything to avoid it. The first lesson in getting what you want is learning to take a chance.
The next lesson is that you have to work hard. Nothing comes easy in life so you must be prepared to make an effort to achieve your goals. That said, there’s no point working hard if what you’re doing isn’t going to get you anywhere! So, what should you do?
Work your network
One of the best ways to progress any idea you have is through your network. Networking is well known in the business world and more often than not, this is where executive recruitment happens – you meet the right person at the right time and discover the perfect job opportunity. But your network isn’t just professional – you should see your friends as a network too.
While your friends may not be able to present job opportunities, they can help you refine your ideas and figure out a way to get what you want. People are amazing at sharing ideas and building each other up and your friends know you well enough to provide realistic advice too.
Aim for smaller goals along the way
It’s really easy to set yourself big, ambitious goals but you must remember that getting from here to there will include a lot of smaller steps. For example, you might want to rise through the ranks at work to become a senior manager but you’re not going to walk into that job straight off. When you know what you need to do but don’t do it, you need to set smaller goals to see real progress.
Setting and achieving small goals will help you navigate towards success and to see your progress along the way. SMART goals are good because they are easy to track. A SMART goal is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timed so you can motivate yourself to do well and see exactly what you need to do.
Remember: it’s not all about you
Another great contradiction in ideas is that if you really try to get what you want at the expense of everything else, you’ll find that it pulls further and further away. To get what you want, you have to realize that it’s not all about you. What you want might be worthwhile, but you have to care for and boost others if you want their help in getting where you’re heading for.
When you widen your perspective, you will see that getting what you want is only a part of life. Working towards your goals, celebrating small achievements along the way and helping your friends and family achieve their goals is incredibly satisfying.
Life is all about growth and development so while it’s good to know what you want and to set your sights on getting it, don’t forget to look around you and see what else is out there. You never know what you might find.
This is a collaborative post that was ghost written for More From My Career.